…i just feel so weak and like i have absolutely no willpower :( i know eating healthy is all about moderation and i don’t want to completely stop it from happening because i know that’s impossible with my living situation at the moment but i would like to reduce it because right now it’s kind of a daily thing and i don’t feel good about it, so yeah i was wondering if you have any tips :) do you live by yourself?
I pasted the rest of your question up here so this makes more sense.
First of all, don’t feel weak! It’s so easy to think “oh wow I couldn’t even say no to a snack I have no willpower” when in reality sometimes saying no to little things like that can be really, really hard — especially when it’s your friends who want you to have something. I don’t know a single person who hasn’t felt what you are feeling. It is not a reflection of your willpower as a whole person — or your ability to stand for things that truly matter to you (not that food doesn’t matter, but you know what I mean). There is no value in extrapolating.
Food is SO social, and changing your eating habits around friends is really tricky. I don’t live alone, but we don’t have a lot of unhealthy food around anymore but in college there was a lot of tempting food. I think the best thing for me at least was to always make sure I had healthy options around so I can participate in eating and share. Just make sure they are snacks that you actually enjoy, even if they’re not 1000% healthy (but still healthier than what your friends are eating). It sucks if they’re eating cupcakes and you’re like “hang on let me get my spinach.” Veggies + hummus and air popped popcorn are two of my favorites. Tortilla chips (preferably organic + low in sodium), berries, kale chips.
I will say that I think over time it gets easier to say no. When I say no to a really tempting unhealthy thing it’s kind of like yay! and then you keep doing it and it gets easier and easier. And your friends get used to the fact that there are things you just don’t eat. I would never say that I’m not still tempted by certain things, but I’ve gotten better at saying no and being comfortable and happy with that choice.
- Always say yes to seeing friends
- Eat breakfast every day
- Recognize that positive change rarely happens overnight
- Accept the fuck-ups, but try not to let them happen again
- There is a song to remedy every situation on the planet
- Appreciate the people in your life
- Look for the good in everything
- Try new things and try them often
- Treat yourself as well as you treat others